A respectful relationship should include:
- Being able to make your own decisions
- Having fun together
- Being able to talk things through and make compromises
- All of the above
Answer: All of the above
A respectful relationship is one of mutual respect, trust, good communication, understanding and honesty. You should be able to have fun together, be able to talk things through and make compromises, but also be able to express your own opinion and make your own decisions.
In a relationship you have the right to:
- Tell the other person what to do
- Always get your own way
- Express your own opinion
- All of the above
Answer: Express your own opinion
In a relationship you have the right to express your own opinion and for your opinion to be respected. You may not always agree on things and may have different points of view and that’s OK. Being able to talk things through with your partner and come to a compromise is important. This may mean that you don’t get your own way, but the decisions that are made are ones you are both comfortable with.
Which of the following is not an aspect of a respectful relationship?
- Open communication
- Companionship
- Control
- Support
Answer: Control
A respectful relationship is based on mutual respect and equality. When one person tries to control the relationship or their partner, this creates an imbalance of power and can be harmful to the relationship and/or the partner being controlled.
It’s OK to talk to your parents or a trusted adult about relationships and sex.
- True
- False
Answer: True
Talking about relationships and sex can be awkward, especially with your parents – but talking with parents (or an older sibling or a trusted adult), can also be helpful, as they know and care about you. Parents had to make their own sexual choices at some point in their lives too. This means they might have good information and advice about relationships and sex and can support you in the decisions that you make.
If you are in an intimate relationship, you are expected to have sex with your partner.
- True
- False
Answer: False
In an intimate relationship you have a right to only do what you feel comfortable with. You should never feel as though your partner is pressuring you to have sex. There are plenty of other ways to be close to your partner like kissing and cuddling, and even these activities are only to be done if you feel comfortable.
In a respectful relationship it is OK to disagree and argue about things.
- True
- False
Answer: True
Even in a respectful relationship you will come across disagreements and arguments. Conflict is normal and healthy and can help you learn about and understand each other. It can be unpleasant, and can make you feel sad, guilty, confused or angry. It’s important to deal with conflict as it arises; it’s how you manage your differences and come to resolutions that are important in maintaining a respectful relationship.
In an intimate relationship, you should put all your time and effort into that one person to show them you care.
- True
- False
Answer: False
In an intimate relationship, it’s important to spend quality time with your partner, but it’s also important to spend some time apart too. Even though intimate relationships can be very special, a healthy relationship shouldn’t get in the way of your other relationships with friends and family. If you find that you don’t have time for other relationships, you might need to think about how to balance your time between your different relationships in a better, more healthy way.
Which of these is unhealthy behaviour in a relationship:
- Your partner always makes you feel responsible for their anger
- Your partner often puts you down
- You constantly check your partner’s phone to see who they’ve been talking to
- All of the above
Answer: All of the above
All of the above are examples of unhealthy behaviour in a relationship. In a respectful relationship you should feel equal to your partner and both are able to deal with conflict in a respectful way. You should also be able to trust your partner and be able to give them space as well as respect their privacy.
A person can be sexually attracted to someone of the same sex, opposite sex, both sexes or no one in particular.
- True
- False
Answer: True
Sexual attraction is when you like someone more than as a friend, and you feel aroused when you see or think about them. A person may be attracted to people of the same sex, or attracted to people of the opposite sex, or may be attracted to both sexes or to no-one in particular. This is healthy and perfectly normal. No one should be bullied or ashamed because of their sexual orientation.
What should you do if your friend tells you they are gay?
- Tell all your other friends
- Ask them how you can support them
- Tell your teacher at school
- Stop being friends with them
Answer: Ask them how you can support them
If your friend ‘comes out’ to you, don’t tell anyone else unless they want you to or you think they are going to harm themselves. Respect their confidentiality and ask them how you can support them – it may be as simple as listening or helping them find information or services. Treat your friend the same way you always have – show them their sexual orientation is not an issue for you.
What things do you need to consider before you start having sex with someone?
- Do you feel safe
- Mutual consent
- Safe sex
- All of the above
Answer: All of the above
Before you start having sex you need to consider if you feel safe and comfortable with the person you are thinking about having sex with:
- Is there mutual consent?
- Have you talked about sex with your partner and you both understand and agree on what you want to do together?
- Have you discussed safe sex and are prepared with the method/s you are going to use?
How can you be sure that your partner doesn’t have an STI (sexually transmissible infection)?
- You can tell by looking at them
- By knowing who they’ve slept with
- You have a sexual health check
- Your partner has a sexual health check
Answer: Your partner has a sexual health check
Most STIs have no signs or symptoms so the only way to really know if your partner has an STI is for them to have a sexual health check. A sexual health check is easy and usually only requires a urine sample.
What could be a way to ask your partner for consent during sexual activities?
- ‘Is it ok if I touch you here?’
- ‘Can I take my shirt off, is that ok?’
- ‘Does this feel good, do you want me to keep doing this?’
- All of the above
Answer: All of the above
Consent is when one person agrees or gives permission to another person to do something. Anyone may decide at any time that they want to stop that activity and take away their consent. Remember no-one can consent to sexual activity when they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
In a sexual situation, what are some signs that someone isn’t comfortable with what’s happening?
- Holding their arms tightly around their body
- Pushing you away
- Nervous / scared facial expression
- All of the above
Answer: All of the above
The look on someone’s face and their body language is also a way of communicating and often has more meaning than the words that come out of their mouth. The above examples are some ways body language can let you know if the person you’re with is not comfortable with what is happening. If your partner’s body language is like any of the above examples then you should stop what you are doing.
If someone says ‘no’ in a sexual situation:
- It really means they’re playing ‘hard to get’ so you should try harder
- They just mean ‘not right now’ but will probably want to later
- They mean ‘no’ and you should respect their decision and not pressure them
- You can assume they’re just nervous and don’t really mean it
Answer: They mean ‘no’ and you should respect their decision and not pressure them
Everyone has a right to say ‘no’ and everyone has the right to change their mind at any time. Never assume that they are playing ‘hard to get’ or that they don’t really mean it when they say ‘no’. It’s important that you are sure that the person you’re with is happy and comfortable because non-consensual sexual activity is against the law.
It’s OK to expect your partner to have sex with you if you’ve been dating them for over 3 months?
- True
- False
Answer: False
There is no set time in a relationship when both partners will feel ready to have sex. You may have been dating someone for a few months or over a year, but you cannot expect them to have sex with you unless they feel they are ready. It’s OK to talk about sex and your feelings about it but it’s not OK to pressure your partner and put sexual expectations on them.
If you love your partner, you should have sex with them.
- True
- False
Answer: False
You may feel that you love your partner, but not feel ready to have sex with them and that is OK. There are many ways to show your partner that you care about them without having sex. Sex is something you should only do when you feel ready, and if your partner is pressuring you to have sex, that is not OK. They may not care for you as much as you think they do if they are not considering your feelings about sex.
It’s OK to talk about sexual stuff before deciding if you want to do it or not?
- True
- False
Answer: True
It’s a good idea to talk to your partner about sexual stuff before deciding if you want to do it or not. Getting to know what your partner’s comfortable with, what their expectations are, and their thoughts about safe sex and contraception are all really important things to discuss before you decide to have sex. It might feel awkward having this conversation but rest assured, in most cases your partner is probably wondering how to bring it up with you too!
Whatever you post online becomes public and anyone can take it and share it.
- True
- False
Answer: True
Only post images, pictures and comments that you would be happy for anyone to see. The internet is a public place, whatever you post online is no longer yours and anyone can take it and share it. Even if you delete a post, they stay in the internet memory and can be retraced, or someone may have already shared or saved it before you took the post down.
If your partner sends you a sexual photo it’s OK to show it to your friends?
- True
- False
Answer: False
It is never OK to show or pass on a sexual photo of your partner to anyone unless they consent. If your partner is under the age of 18, nude or sexual imagery is considered child pornography. This means that you could get in some serious legal trouble if you have, keep, show or pass the image on. So, it’s best to think before you sext and never pass on a nude or sexual image.
